the christmas spirit

Spirit

it can be hard to give

receive

accept

cynicism and anger oddly enough 

are more easily accepted in our hearts when 

the spirit is what we truly need

the hardest thing sounds the easiest -

to be open - just open

turn our face to the breeze

see the good in a stranger

see the reason we fell in love all those years ago

to look past the scars of negativity and hubris that  lashed  at us since

so for this season of seasons,

all i ask - 

albeit a mondo ask-

is to open your self to the christmas spirit

smile at a stranger

feel the snowflakes on your cheek

let the bad go where in belongs - in the abyss

and be open to the good that may come your way this christmas day

frozen

i am not talking about the movie - i am talking about me.  this is not going to be another 'woe is dave' posting - i have done enough of them over the years - venting in public is never good -
no this is about the freezing i do to those around me
 

the fact i am learning is animals [and ppl are animals] react to threat and conflict in 3 ways
fight
flight
freeze

i generally do the last two. which can make me appear cowardly , apathetic and worse - void of caring and emotion.

fight is not always the best but it can be interpreted as a passion by our society and this will work against some of us who due to our wiring follow the latter.

this means we have to fight our fight - have our ego and super ego overrule our ID, not always the easiest thign to do - just ask freud.



  even so , for the right reason - the right woman - this all is paramount.

if your wiring results in her feeling less than the vivacious , sexy, smart, loving , hot woman you see her as,
then you need to work to replace that wiring, and until you can, mentally over rule it.

 this may look like nothing in our fight dominated culture, but it is far more demonstrative of love than raised voices, broken dishes , or flailing arms