frozen

i am not talking about the movie - i am talking about me.  this is not going to be another 'woe is dave' posting - i have done enough of them over the years - venting in public is never good -
no this is about the freezing i do to those around me
 

the fact i am learning is animals [and ppl are animals] react to threat and conflict in 3 ways
fight
flight
freeze

i generally do the last two. which can make me appear cowardly , apathetic and worse - void of caring and emotion.

fight is not always the best but it can be interpreted as a passion by our society and this will work against some of us who due to our wiring follow the latter.

this means we have to fight our fight - have our ego and super ego overrule our ID, not always the easiest thign to do - just ask freud.



  even so , for the right reason - the right woman - this all is paramount.

if your wiring results in her feeling less than the vivacious , sexy, smart, loving , hot woman you see her as,
then you need to work to replace that wiring, and until you can, mentally over rule it.

 this may look like nothing in our fight dominated culture, but it is far more demonstrative of love than raised voices, broken dishes , or flailing arms